The things we don’t talk about. But should.

TABOO SUBJECTS

The stuff most people swallow, hide, or carry alone. I help you put it down — not because I studied it, but because I lived it.

You wake up and something feels off — the anxiety, the relationships that keep breaking, the silence you carry because no one ever really saw you. None of this makes you broken.

ALL OF IT, OUT LOUD

ANGER & AGGRESSION

The bear in the living room.

Many of us unconsciously find ourselves in relationships with aggressive or emotionally volatile partners.

We often choose people who display the same patterns we once experienced in childhood — the so-called “Bear in the Living Room” Syndrome. We repeat what we know. When you grow up around emotional chaos, conflict, or aggression, it becomes your normal. As adults, we unconsciously recreate those dynamics — either by tolerating them, provoking them, or becoming the aggressive one ourselves.

Sometimes, the hardest truth to face is that we are the ones carrying the anger, without understanding why. That too often has deep roots in childhood pain and unresolved trauma.

In this work, I help you identify your triggers, understand your emotional patterns, and break the cycle of aggression — whether you are on the receiving end, or the one who explodes. Together, we create space for awareness, accountability, and emotional safety — the foundation of every healthy relationship.

GRIEF & LOSS

When the world changed — and no one asked you first.

For moments you never wanted. Loss you didn’t plan. Love that didn’t stay.

Who it’s for:

• You’ve lost someone — a person, a pet, a dream.
• You’re sitting in the quiet chaos after a breakup.
• You feel numb, angry, confused — or all of it at once.
• You’re not looking to “move on.” You just want to move through.

SEX WORK

For those who want out — and don’t know how.

Escorting, sex work, prostitution — they’re basically siblings in a way.

I guess escorting is just a nicer word for prostitution, except that you don’t have a pimp, and you can actually look at who you’re going to sleep with. And if you’re a good-looking person, you can even choose. But the big question is: what does it do to you when you are selling your body — your mind — to somebody you’re not totally attracted to?

And even if you are attracted to them — which in many cases happens, because the clients aren’t all ugly or hideous — what does it do to you when you go and do what you only ever wanted to do with that one particular person? It rapes your mind, it fucks with you, and it destroys you. I’m speaking from my own experience.

Now, having said that — there are many sex workers out there who’ve managed to make a great life out of it. They love what they do, and that’s all good. But I’m speaking to those who don’t love it — and who need a way out. So here’s what we do — the same process I used with myself:

• Understanding the real why. First and foremost, it’s about figuring out: do you need the money? Can you do something else? Because there’s an addiction here — the addiction to fast money. It’s that feeling of: I spend 30 minutes with someone, maybe an hour, and I make 150 bucks. Do that every day, 20 times a month — and yes, you can live off it. So that’s the first thing we need to understand.
• Reconnecting to what you want. After a while, you don’t even know what you want to do anymore. That’s where I step in — to help you find direction again. To reconnect with what’s real, with what’s you.
• Building your exit plan. We’ll work together to gradually get you out — by understanding what’s connected: the selling of your body and why you do it, the drug use and emotional cycles that often come with it, the dependency on fast money. Then we build a new way of life — whether that means going self-employed, finding a new job, or starting something you’ve always wanted to do. I’ll help you write your CV, find direction, and take practical steps toward stability and freedom.
• Coming home to yourself. This is probably the biggest challenge of all — because after years of living this life, you no longer know who you are. That’s where I stand with you — not above you, not judging you — but with you. I’ve been there. And I know how to walk out of it.
• The goal. It isn’t just to quit escorting — it’s to rebuild your self-worth. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need to find your way back home to yourself.

HIV

From fear to freedom.

Getting diagnosed with HIV changes everything — not just in your body, but in your mind.

The shock, the shame, the why me — they can hit harder than the virus itself. You start questioning your worth, your future, your love life, even your right to feel normal again.

And that’s where I come in. I’ve been there — not just as a coach, but as someone who has lived through it. I know the fear, the anger, the self-blame. And I also know that at some point, you get tired of feeling like a victim. This is the moment where you take your power back.

In our sessions, we’ll talk honestly — about your fears, your health, your relationships, your life. We’ll face the things others avoid, and turn your story from why me into watch me. You’ll learn how to:

• Rebuild self-worth after diagnosis.
• Manage emotional triggers and shame.
• Reconnect with your body and confidence.
• Create healthy intimacy again — without fear.
• Shift from surviving to truly living.

This isn’t medical advice — it’s human support. It’s a conversation that reminds you: HIV doesn’t define you — you define what comes next.

STEROIDS

When looking better becomes the thing that destroys you.

Many men — and women — start using steroids for the same reason: confidence, power, control.

It begins as a small boost, a way to feel better, to look better, to keep up. But for most, it becomes a dependency — not just physical, but emotional. I know, because I’ve lived it.

For over twenty years, steroids were part of my life. They gave me size, strength, and a version of myself I thought I needed — particularly as a gay man, it was my armour, my protection. Being more manly than others made me feel safe, while my inner child was screaming at me. But they also came with anger, disconnection, a chaotic sex drive, and eventually — emptiness. When I stopped, I looked deflated — literally and emotionally. My body changed, my identity shifted, and I had to rebuild who I was without the chemical help. And I mean rebuild.

This work isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding why you started — what you were really trying to fix — and helping you see what your body, mind, and relationships are trying to tell you. We’ll look at:

• The link between body image, performance, and self-worth.
• The emotional spiral behind substance-fuelled identity.
• How to reclaim control, rebuild confidence, and find peace with your body again.

Because the real work isn’t about quitting steroids — it’s about discovering who you are when you no longer need them.

CHEMSEX & SUBSTANCES

From escapism to embodiment.

Chemsex isn’t just about sex or drugs. It’s about numbing what was never healed.

The shame, the loneliness, the craving for connection and validation. You don’t need judgement. You need reflection, honesty, and someone who understands the spiral — because he’s lived it. I used chems for years — chasing intensity, connection, and escape. It took me a long time to realise I wasn’t addicted to the high, but to the feeling of not having to feel.

That’s why this work exists: not to preach, but to help you understand what’s really driving it, and to take back control from the inside out. It’s especially powerful for gay and queer men caught in the cycle of validation, performance, and emotional emptiness. This isn’t about forcing yourself to get clean. It’s about becoming in charge — of your choices, your body, your boundaries, and your peace. When you lead your mind, the rest follows.

Because the problem isn’t always the drugs or alcohol — it’s what’s underneath. So many of us use — meth, coke, G, ketamine, sleeping pills, steroids — yet we don’t talk about it. We tell ourselves it’s not that bad, because we don’t overdo it. But still, it makes us tired, irritable, confused, and emotionally flat. Daily life gets disrupted, work suffers, relationships are either a mess or die out, confidence drops — and sometimes, even our sex life depends on it.

Most professionals know what should be done. But few truly understand how it feels. They haven’t been there. They tell you to “get clean” before the real work even starts — and that’s a myth. You can’t heal what you don’t first understand. I used meth, cocaine, G, sleeping pills, and steroids — and I learned to manage my use instead of being ruled by it. My goal was never complete abstinence — it was understanding. And once I took the pressure off, everything shifted. Now I rarely use — two, maybe three times a year — and I can enjoy my life without fear or shame. I know the day will come when I stop completely — but it will be because I want to, not because someone demanded it as a condition for my healing journey. That’s the freedom I teach.

This isn’t about punishment or detox. It’s about reflection, truth, and rebuilding your sense of control. It’s about discovering why you use — and learning to meet those needs in ways that actually heal you.

PS: This work is sadly not for those who are physically addicted to a degree that requires medical supervision or detox. If that’s where you are, please seek professional medical support first — and once you’re stable, I’ll be here to help you rebuild what comes after.

MONEY SHAME

The debt, the chaos, the secret you carry.

Money is one of the last real taboos — and one of the loudest echoes of childhood.

The way you earn it, spend it, hide it, or burn it usually goes all the way back. Maybe you grew up with scarcity and now you can’t hold on to a cent. Maybe you chase fast money to feel safe, then sabotage it. Maybe you’re drowning in debt and too ashamed to say it out loud to anyone.

I’ve had millions pass through my hands and I’ve started again from almost nothing — more than once. So I don’t talk about money from a textbook. We’ll look honestly at what money really means to you, where the pattern began, and how to build a steadier, calmer relationship with it — without shame, without pretending. This isn’t financial advice. It’s the human work underneath the numbers.

ADHD

It’s not laziness.

The lost keys, the missed deadlines, the brilliant ideas that never get finished — and the shame that piles up underneath.

ADHD isn’t a character flaw or a lack of willpower. It’s a different wiring — one that struggles with focus, time, and follow-through, while often carrying real creativity and drive. But years of being called lazy, messy, or too much leave a mark. Underneath the symptoms there’s usually a story of never quite fitting the shape the world expected.

I don’t hand you a list of tips and wish you luck. We work with how your mind actually runs — building systems that fit you, not ones you’ll abandon in a week — and we look at the shame and self-blame that so often ride alongside it. The goal isn’t to make you normal. It’s to help you work with your brain instead of fighting it.

If something here needs a doctor or a formal diagnosis, I’ll help you find the right person. This is the human work alongside it.

THE PROCESS · HOW I HELP

Bring your biggest challenge. Nothing’s off-limits.

Purpose, love, addiction, anger, business — whatever it is, you bring it, and you allow me to be radically honest. I’ll help you see what’s really going on, beyond the excuses, the stories, and the fear. If we vibe, we’ll go deeper with a personalised concept built around you.

It starts with a free Discovery Call. Online, worldwide, in four languages — English, German, French, Luxembourgish. Same approach for individuals, couples, families, and teams. My fees are based on your income — trust me, you’ll be able to afford it.

My only ask: show up empowered — not as a victim. And if you’re ready to make your pain bigger than yourself and help others, you can allow me to record and share our session. Your choice, always.

I know what it’s like to carry what no one wants to talk about. And what it takes to finally put it down.

Not because I studied it — because I lived it. If you’re lucky, you might catch me today. Book and find out.