The things we don’t talk about. But should.

[ ANGER & AGGRESSION ]

The bear in the living room.

Many of us unconsciously find ourselves in relationships with aggressive or emotionally volatile partners.

We often choose people who display the same patterns we once experienced in childhood — the so-called “Bear in the Living Room” Syndrome. We repeat what we know. When you grow up around emotional chaos, conflict, or aggression, it becomes your normal. As adults, we unconsciously recreate those dynamics — either by tolerating them, provoking them, or becoming the aggressive one ourselves.

Sometimes, the hardest truth to face is that we are the ones carrying the anger, without understanding why. That too often has deep roots in childhood pain and unresolved trauma.

In this work, I help you identify your triggers, understand your emotional patterns, and break the cycle of aggression — whether you are on the receiving end, or the one who explodes. Together, we create space for awareness, accountability, and emotional safety — the foundation of every healthy relationship.

[ SEX WORK ]

For those who want out — and don’t know how.

Escorting, sex work, prostitution — they’re basically siblings in a way.

I guess escorting is just a nicer word for prostitution, except that you don’t have a pimp, and you can actually look at who you’re going to sleep with. And if you’re a good-looking person, you can even choose. But the big question is: what does it do to you when you are selling your body — your mind — to somebody you’re not totally attracted to?

And even if you are attracted to them — which in many cases happens, because the clients aren’t all ugly or hideous — what does it do to you when you go and do what you only ever wanted to do with that one particular person? It rapes your mind, it fucks with you, and it destroys you. I’m speaking from my own experience.

Now, having said that — there are many sex workers out there who’ve managed to make a great life out of it. They love what they do, and that’s all good. But I’m speaking to those who don’t love it — and who need a way out. So here’s what we do — the same process I used with myself:

1. Understanding the real why. First and foremost, it’s about figuring out: do you need the money? Can you do something else? Because there’s an addiction here — the addiction to fast money. It’s that feeling of: I spend 30 minutes with someone, maybe an hour, and I make 150 bucks. Do that every day, 20 times a month — and yes, you can live off it. So that’s the first thing we need to understand.
2. Reconnecting to what you want. After a while, you don’t even know what you want to do anymore. That’s where I step in — to help you find direction again. To reconnect with what’s real, with what’s you.
3. Building your exit plan. We’ll work together to gradually get you out — by understanding what’s connected: the selling of your body and why you do it, the drug use and emotional cycles that often come with it, the dependency on fast money. Then we build a new way of life — whether that means going self-employed, finding a new job, or starting something you’ve always wanted to do. I’ll help you write your CV, find direction, and take practical steps toward stability and freedom.
4. Coming home to yourself. This is probably the biggest challenge of all — because after years of living this life, you no longer know who you are. That’s where I stand with you — not above you, not judging you — but with you. I’ve been there. And I know how to walk out of it.
5. The goal. It isn’t just to quit escorting — it’s to rebuild your self-worth. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need to find your way back home to yourself.

[ STEROIDS ]

When looking better becomes the thing that destroys you.

Many men — and women — start using steroids for the same reason: confidence, power, control.

It begins as a small boost, a way to feel better, to look better, to keep up. But for most, it becomes a dependency — not just physical, but emotional. I know, because I’ve lived it.

For over twenty years, steroids were part of my life. They gave me size, strength, and a version of myself I thought I needed — particularly as a gay man, it was my armour, my protection. Being more manly than others made me feel safe, while my inner child was screaming at me. But they also came with anger, disconnection, a chaotic sex drive, and eventually — emptiness. When I stopped, I looked deflated — literally and emotionally. My body changed, my identity shifted, and I had to rebuild who I was without the chemical help. And I mean rebuild.

This work isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding why you started — what you were really trying to fix — and helping you see what your body, mind, and relationships are trying to tell you. We’ll look at:

• The link between body image, performance, and self-worth.
• The emotional spiral behind substance-fuelled identity.
• How to reclaim control, rebuild confidence, and find peace with your body again.

Because the real work isn’t about quitting steroids — it’s about discovering who you are when you no longer need them.

[ MONEY SHAME ]

The debt, the chaos, the secret you carry.

Money is one of the last real taboos — and one of the loudest echoes of childhood.

The way you earn it, spend it, hide it, or burn it usually goes all the way back. Maybe you grew up with scarcity and now you can’t hold on to a cent. Maybe you chase fast money to feel safe, then sabotage it. Maybe you’re drowning in debt and too ashamed to say it out loud to anyone.

I’ve had millions pass through my hands and I’ve started again from almost nothing — more than once. So I don’t talk about money from a textbook. We’ll look honestly at what money really means to you, where the pattern began, and how to build a steadier, calmer relationship with it — without shame, without pretending. This isn’t financial advice. It’s the human work underneath the numbers.