You keep ending up in the same place — same people, same fights, same emptiness. You're not broken — it's the old wound, still running the show. I help you find it, and build the habits that finally set you free.
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You've tried everything and still feel stuck — because most help stops at understanding. That was never enough, not for me, not for the people I coach. So I built Cycle Zero: through lifemapping we name what's off, find the trauma, understand it, then act — new habits, new behaviours. That's 90% of the work.
You wake up no longer reacting to the toxic people around you — calm, at peace, in your own energy. You've taken 100% responsibility for where you are and never give it away by blaming anyone. That's full empowerment. From there you attract the right people for your adult self — better partner, better friends, better work, real balance. The ones who hurt or neglected you — your mum, your dad — no longer run the show. The emptiness gone, your identity clear. You let yourself be you.
You are victim and aggressor in one. If you're willing to make amends to your adult child, and finally deal with your shit — I'm your guy. Forgive yourself by making those amends. Be okay with who you are.
That's not a fantasy. That's the other side of doing the work.
First — I've been through the mill, many times over. So I'll get you no matter what's going on. No judgement, no taboo subjects, and I'm one of the most solution-oriented people out there.
A mother who couldn't love me. Lived in nine countries, speak four languages. Award-winning athlete, millionaire in my twenties — then, after a major loss, self-inflicted HIV, family estrangement, the business gone, addiction, homelessness, and so much more. It took me over a decade to get back to myself — by taking full responsibility for all of it, and building new habits into my life.
You don't need to have lived my life to recognise yourself in it. Your pain may look quieter — a toxic relationship, the parent you can't forgive, the emptiness and fear of being alone, abandonment issues, the business you never dared to start. I don't do pretending, I don't do toxic positivity, and I don't believe your past has the final word.
Who can help you through it better than someone who's been there — and come out winning?
That's the decision to sit with right now.
I gave birth to my son at 17. I wasn't just absent for him — I was a bad mother his whole life. I rejected him, I watched him struggle, I watched him unable to develop self-love. He nearly lost his life, and still, I couldn't be there. Then, at 65, I came across Alek. He showed me, in a way no one else ever had, what it truly means to parent. He understood me because he carried a story similar to my son's — and that's why his words cut through my walls. Through the work we did, I found the courage to contact my son. It wasn't a long call, maybe ten minutes. But behind it were hours of self-growth. In those minutes, I was finally able to tell him the truth. He heard me. And even more importantly — I heard him. And for the first time, I was also able to hear myself. We're not in touch now, even after that call. But I know he got me. I know he felt me. And for the first time in my life, I forgave myself. That forgiveness has set me free.
M.J. · Luxembourg
In the first session, Alek said something that 10 years of therapy hadn't reached.
Johann Skierka · Berlin
Realising that I was responsible for feeding the bond I had with my husband was a hard nut to crack. It was me who needed the toxicity more than he did — and yet I blamed him, and everyone else, for everything. I kept myself small so I'd never have to leave the bond I was feeding. I was a fighter, but I was fighting the wrong fight. Alek brought me to taking full responsibility for where I was in my life. That decision alone changed my behaviour. And after so many years of understanding and accepting, he showed me that behaviour and habits are all that matter to change your life.
Damian · Paris
On paper my life worked — decent money, a good car, married, some savings. But something in me didn't want to be happy, or even content. I was waiting for something and didn't know what. Anxiety was my daily companion, along with the feeling of not being enough — and I couldn't sleep in the dark. I needed a sound, a voice running, for as long as I can remember. Then I read Alek's story. His brutal honesty about his fall from grace took me — but what I respected more was that he no longer cared what anyone thought of him. That triggered me, because I still cared so much about other people's approval. After our first session — the first — it became clear I was still waiting for my mother's approval. I was basing my whole worth and happiness on someone who had hurt me, and it was never going to come. I'd even married a plain copy of her. Letting go of the anger — mostly at myself — was hard, but Alek helped me take responsibility for my life. Since then I feel contentment, and I was even able to change my marriage. I'm a happy one now. Thank you, Alek.
Richard · Stockholm
Not ready for 1:1, or can't afford it yet? Walk the Cycle Zero path yourself, at your own pace.
The real work — your whole story rebuilt, tailored to you. Families and couples welcome.
One hard, honest hour. To snap out of it, or stop a big mistake before you make it.
After the trauma work — or if you don't need it. Build the business, the life, the next chapter.
There's one way in: book a free call. We give each other 12–24 hours to reflect, and if we match, I build you a custom programme. The work is radical honesty — fun, laughs and results. I mirror back what you can't yet see and help you hear the thing you've been avoiding — the real reason you keep landing in the same place.
You leave able to let go of what's been running you — and finally live it as your own.
Free, no pitch, no obligation. I usually reply within a day.