I could list everything I've done and everyone I've helped. But let's be real — you're here because something's off. So if you're one of the three people I'm about to describe, you're in the right place.
01
The
unseen
adult
If you're an adult and something always feels off —
A life that isn't quite yours. No matter what you achieve, you judge yourself raw. Underneath it: you were never really seen. Never really heard. Not by your mother, your father — maybe both. Or your partner. Like you don't matter.
Anxiety · Depression · ADHD · Addiction · Self-sabotage · People-pleasing · Numbing & escape · Shame · The body that won't rest · Relationship issues · Urgent family matters · The crisis call
These are side effects. A childhood put things on you that were never yours to carry — and you're still carrying them. You're living off the moments that hurt you, not the life that could be.
I know that life. I lived it. And I know the day it stops running you. That's the work we do together.
"What an hour. I knew nothing about trauma — and definitely not about generational trauma. All I knew was that I felt unwell, off, like something was ruling me, and I was almost never aligned with my own decisions. Then in just one krass, hour-long session with Alek it hit me: I wasn't living my life. I was living my parents' life."
FRANCES · LONDON
02
The
amends
parent
Or you're a parent who wants to make amends — and doesn't know how.
The guilt sits on you. You know you passed something on, and it's eating at the life you have left. But you're scared, or don't know where to start.
Here's the truth: the amends matter whether or not your child accepts them. If they do, you might build some kind of relationship. If they don't, you still walk out from under the shame — and build a better life from here.
I know how much it would have meant if my mother had just tried — and told me one sentence: "I'm sorry I wasn't able to love you the way you deserved." That alone would have healed me to the core.
"I gave birth to my son at 17. I wasn't just absent for him — I was a bad mother his whole life. I rejected him, I watched him struggle, I watched him unable to develop self-love. He nearly lost his life, and still, I couldn't be there. Then, at 65, I came across Alek. He showed me, in a way no one else ever had, what it truly means to parent. He understood me because he carried a story similar to my son's — and that's why his words cut through my walls. Through the work we did, I found the courage to contact my son. It wasn't a long call, maybe ten minutes. But behind it were hours of self-growth. In those minutes, I was finally able to tell him the truth. He heard me. And even more importantly — I heard him. And for the first time, I was also able to hear myself. We're not in touch now, even after that call. But I know he got me. I know he felt me. And for the first time in my life, I forgave myself. That forgiveness has set me free."
M.J. · LUXEMBOURG
03
The
prevention
parent
And of course, for new and soon-to-be parents — who want to break their own generational trauma.
So you no longer hand that pain — or most of it — to your child. So they don't spend their life healing from you.
That's the whole point. And the reason I do it — besides income — is because it heals me. Keeps me sane. So this isn't just a mission. It's my duty.
The pain stops here. With you.
Learn more →One of these — or all of them? Most people are more than one. Start where it hurts.
And here's what's on the other side. Feeling free. You stop comparing. You stop giving a shit what people think — without being a total narcissist. It's the best feeling I know. I got there myself. And it's closer than you think.
I finally know who I am — because I dealt with what had to be dealt with.
So what will it be? Same old. Or a new path.
One thing's certain — no judgment here. And you will be heard.
Book a free Discovery CallIn Berlin in person, or online worldwide. In four languages — English, German, French, and Luxembourgish.
Worried about cost? Don't be. You pay according to your income — so you can afford this work.
What the work looks like.
You won't find a one-size-fits-all programme here — that would be unachievable, and frankly ridiculous. You, me, and millions of others are different. Even with the same pain, we each carry it our own way. The work has to be custom-made — for you, and everyone you love.
So the free Discovery Call is the only way to start with me. Expect radical honesty, mirroring, a lot of empathy — and humour.
After the call, we wait 24 hours and feel whether we matched. I send you a recap, then either decline — or have a plan ready.
Usually it's eight sessions, 60 to 90 minutes each, weekly for two months. Then we reassess. And the after-work matters most. Why? You'll create new patterns — that part's easy. Keeping them is the change. So I stay at your side, every two weeks or once a month, for at least four months.
No oversell. Just a conversation. You'll know if it's right.
What's going on? Talk to me.
GENERATIONAL TRAUMA · PEER COACH & ADVOCATE
↳ THE MECHANISM
Why one moment runs the whole show
Life is supposed to move in one direction — from birth to who you're really meant to become.
But somewhere along that path, something painful happens. As a child, you don't have the tools to understand it properly, so you make sense of it the only way a child can — a simple, often wrong story about what it means about you or the world.
That story doesn't stay in the past. You keep telling it to yourself. You keep telling it to others, without realizing it. And every year you don't question it, it gets a little more solid, a little harder to see past.
Eventually, without knowing it, you start choosing your whole life — especially who you love — based on that one old moment. Not based on who you are now. Based on a decision a hurt child made a long time ago.
The arrow forward is the life you were meant to live. The arrow upward is what actually happens instead — one moment, quietly running the whole show.
↳ IN THE ROOM
"Working with Alek is just different. Within minutes, I was able to be me — and I mean me. It almost felt like talking to my best mate. He's incredibly kind, yet in the same breath, brutally honest. I've been with Alek for years now, and every session is still as insightful as the first."
MICHAEL SCHLUTT · HR DIRECTOR, H&M GERMANY
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